All of us have repetitious words or thoughts playing in our minds throughout the day, thoughts filled with our task lists, worries, don’t forget this or that, I shouldn’t eat that, when will I lose weight, oh my hair, and on and on the record spins. It’s our daily lives. Some of these thoughts are guiding us while others are harmful, negative anchors pulling at the fabric of our soul and self-esteem. I contend by changing the mantra playing continuously in your mind, while repurposing your thoughts to positive images, you will bring more joy and happiness into your life.
Stop and Think About It
Think about it for a moment. No, really stop for a moment and listen to what is playing in your mind right now, well besides my opening paragraph. Think about all those pesky negative thoughts which sneak into your mind and linger throughout the day, pushing out your happy thoughts.
We all do it. There is always something we tend to focus on about ourselves, somedays more than others. Just this morning I was looking in the mirror and wondering where those extra, hum, well let’s say few pounds surfaced. (OK, I know the answer.)
Those thoughts, the ones that focus on the negative, have no benefit to you. Rather, thought-by-thought, incrementally each grabs a hold of another thread and begins pulling. You may not even be aware that your joy is being unraveled by these pesky thoughts.
Honestly though, you know you think these thoughts. We all give too much credence to each, which gives them the strength to root and grow. Self doubt, worry, anxiety, and fear all start with a small little seed which we allow to plant within our minds. Then we give it the attention it needs to further strengthen.
Whenever you focus your mind’s eye, you give strength to it. ~ Tonya
What do you do?
The first step is pulling each of those negative thoughts to the forefront where you can face them. Ask yourself why am I giving credence to this thought. Why does it really matter? Be honest with yourself. In the grand scheme of life, does it really matter?
If the answer is no, let it go. Grab a hold it and pull it out of your mind. Visualize yourself doing this act. Then cast it out of your mind. If it tries to grow legs and creep back in, immediately dismiss it by kicking it back out of your mind.
If the answer is yes, however, then this is an issue that needs to be dealt with and not ignored. Procrastination is not helpful here. The longer you wait, the stronger it grows. Remember we have to go through and not around. It’s the most direct path.
Next create an environment around you which makes you happy, one in which you find yourself smiling throughout the day and humming your favorite tune for no apparent reason.
Repurposing our minds to focus on positive images reframes how we think and react. Just like when you focus on a negative thought gives it strength, focusing on the positive reinforces it and allows it deeply root in your life.
But I don’t know how to focus on the positive
Reframing your thought process and building a positive environment around you is actually very simple. You just need to intentionally do it. It starts with small steps.
Here is what I want you to do. Answer this question.
What makes me smile?
Smiling is indicator for joy entering into our souls. It’s hard to be negative and feel depressed or down if you are smiling (a real smile and not the fake one you give when you get an ugly sweater at Christmas).
For me, music makes me smile. I find myself humming along while I sway in my chair. I surround myself all day with music. I also love to laugh. Watching silly movies and television lifts my spirt and fills me with a feeling of happiness.
Your smile triggers may be different, but the point is exactly the same. By surrounding yourself with that which makes you happy and brings a smile to your face, you are reframe your thoughts and bringing joy into your life.
Just be cautious not to fall into the excuse cycle, as excuses are just those pesky negative thoughts creeping upon on you again. Remember they do not want to leave. Be vigilant against them.
What are the thoughts playing over and over again in your mind? Tell us how you are taking steps to reframe your thoughts and surround yourself with smiles all to change that mantra.
Wishing you a joyous day. Cheers.